As we approach the end of another year and look forward to the prospects of a new year, I like to take a quick assessment of where I am and what progress I have made toward to goals and aspirations I had for this year. There was some positive progress in several areas, but some backsliding in others.
When I say backsliding I mean that I made initial progress, and then let that progress slip away. I either ended the year right where I started, or in a worse position than when I started. Many people find this happens when you set a goal to lose weight. Months of progress and then more months of sliding back where we came from.
What Causes Backsliding?
My personal observations are the following:
- We do well out of the gate that we want to award ourselves for a job well done and we stop doing what we were doing.
- We get distracted by some other goal or aspiration.
- We let the hurry and rush of life (the urgent) keep us from the important.
- We don’t see all the progress we had hoped for as fast as we had hoped for it and we get discouraged
- We give up what we want most for what we want now.
How can you keep from backsliding?
First and foremost, be clear on what it is you are trying to accomplish. The single biggest challenge to your success is lack of clarity on what it is you want to accomplish. If you have clarity of the outcome that you are looking for, saying no to distractions gets a lot easier.
Secondly, know why you are trying to accomplish a specific outcome. As Simon Sinek teaches in his terrific book, “Start with Why”, we can easily state WHAT we are doing. We can easily talk about HOW we are doing it. But very few people can articulate WHY they are doing what they are doing. When you have a strong “why” you can develop the resilience to fight through the challenges, tough times and setbacks.
In the coming year I commit to not give up on what I want most for what I want now. I hope you will join me.
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